This is quite familiar you might be thinking but it’s the reason why many young people have held back on their goals and aspirations. This is also the reason why many have succeeded. Yes, it’s a two way street. What matters is the reaction to an experience of failure. In my line of work, I have had a great relationship with FEAR. I have started and ended several businesses in my business career. In the beginning of my endeavors, I was keen on living a business life that had literally no failure. This goal made it very difficult for me to accept the end of a non-performing business and as such I always dragged such businesses in an effort to revive them and in the end much more damage is done. I held my head up high; proud to tell people that I was the perfect one who always touched gold with no failures.
This feat, made me come to the conclusion that there was no way I could fail in anything and so I always looked forward to the next big break in my endeavors. This was the case until I failed for the first time, then the second, then potentially more, which are yet to happen, and I wish it doesn’t or never happen again.
In all of this I have learnt that the fear of losing is oftentimes what holds us back from starting that which we dream of.
Even though most senior successful people in my life tell me “accept your failures”, “failure is the mother of success” and many other theories, I still truly hate failures with a passion. Truth is I have always been the youngest in everything I do and yet also the best in what I do, this makes me feel like the thought of possible failure is like an insult and something that doesn’t actually cross my mind most of the time. I mean its like telling myself “you cannot ride a bike”. I remember my first business failure experience. I was extremely disappointed, frustrated and ashamed of myself. In actual fact, I was devastated. This experience sincerely left me in so much fear; I was for a long time in fear such that I presumed everything I touch after that experience would lead in total failure. The fear of failure led to a total resistance when it came to opportunities that maybe at the time would have catapulted me to the next level. For a long time, I just couldn’t try anything new because I felt that would be an opportunity to add a “failure” to my beautiful portfolio. I am not encouraging anyone to enjoy or be relaxed about an occurrence of failure. This is me telling you that the fear of failing should not affect the pursuance of that big dream of yours. What matters is the approach, instead of spending time in grief after an experience of failure, spend time revising that generating a new model out of that “wrong” one. Like they say “a wrong business model is a failure but a great model revised based on the wrong one, is in fact a success, which would never have happened if the failure didn’t take place the first place”. The fact of the matter is failing is inevitable, history cannot be rewritten but we can utilize the failure and transform it into a bright future. Today I urge you to make an effort to start something new, knowing that if you encounter failure success would follow suit.